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near him sent me into a small state of euphoria. 9 months after my husband died I met a man who tipped the scales for me. He was intelligent , charming and attentive. Over the next few months I was amazed at my feelings for him-surely this was not "allowed" so soon after the death of my beloved husband. He would walk into a room and I would know it. It was almost as if I could smell his essence-no he did not wear cologne! Being near him sent me into a small state of euphoria that I was almost ashamed of feeling! Since this was at work, I saw him nearly everyday -but it did not go any further than talk and quick hugs. Before it went any further his boss called it to a halt, stating that there were issues of "privilege" that were 'questionable." So the object of my limerance basically walked away. H e had too much to lose to take any chance of his liscensure being questioned. So I have been cognizant that this was a one sided affair. I still have strong feelings for him although I hardly see him at all anymore. But instead of forgetting him -he will always be on the back burner. His last conversation went -I want to stay and talk ...but I don't dare get caught. Is this limerance -mutual admiration-Love? Romantic
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could even imagine being married to him. When I was younger, I never thought I could be attracted to anyone with such intensity. Having to work through junior college and university, there was other more important and urgent issue concerning money to take care of. Besides, I have always prided myself to be levelheaded when matters of the heart is concerned. The fact that I was in a committed relationship since my early twenties certainly helps to keep my emotional self in check. Now that I’m in my thirties and happily married, I thought I’m way past any emotional traps that might have been there previously. However, this is not to be the case. The first time I experienced limerence was two years back when I went back to the university for a master degree as a full-time student after having worked for eight years. He was my professor and head of the division where I attended the program. I first met him during the selection interview but was neither attracted nor impressed by him especially in the mildly arrogance manner that he conducted the interview. In the first lesson with him, I was expecting the same arrogance as in the previous encounter but instead he was warm and friendly towards everybody. There was certainly a disarming charisma about him, which had taken me by surprise. Nonetheless I did not expect any attraction to take place and was in fact bemused by the infatuations that my female classmates held for the professor. I was friendly but not unusually so with anyone in particular. In class I had chosen to sit in the middle row that was partially hidden, a comfort zone created so that I need not have to come into direct eye contact with the lecturer constantly. This is useful especially since I have the habit of taking note with my head drooping towards the paper and also useful for checking messages on my mobile phone without attracting unwanted attention. Once in the midst of the lecture, after having spent a minute or two bending over my notes and checking them, I looked into his direction. My sudden movement must have startled him for I caught him looking away quickly. For a split second he looked lost and vulnerable before he quickly regained his disposition and continued with the lecture. Not wanting to appear awkward, I smiled when he looked at my direction again. I guess that smile must have triggered something. From that moment on he became friendlier and with each friendly gesture, there was a searching look in his eyes when he looked into m! y direction. Often I would return with a smile and his face would like light up and there would be delights in his eyes. He may not be aware that his reaction was extraordinary from his usual friendly and charismatic disposition. But, the kind of effect he had on me when that happened was tremendous. The thought itself was flattering enough at first but before long I found myself falling into a state of limerence. He filled my thoughts most of the time. Throughout the entire program, my decision and action depended on a large extent on how he would think and value me as an individual and not just a student from his class. At times I felt that the attraction was mutual while with lesser intensity on his part. In my deepest fantasy, I could even imagine being married to him, have his children and grow old together. More than a year has past since I completed the program, I would have thought my feeling towards him has lessen somewhat. That is until two days ago when I came ac! ross his picture in the university web site, which once again made my heart skipped a beat or two. .
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