The first essential requirement for long distance relationships is effective and frequent communication.

It is important for both people to be regularly in contact as communication is at the heart of a really satisfying long distance relationships, particularly where communication is welcomed and received with similar active communication from the other person.

The quality of long distance relationships is more likely to be enhanced if both people develop the facility to share feelings candidly with each other. Lacking this, each partner is then working on quite a different relationship to the other member, and troubles are likely. The second key to success is a demonstrated loyalty to long distance relationships by both parties.

What type of commitment, and how serious or important it is, will vary for different people. Being so far apart in long distance relationships, can be a frightening and perilous venture for most couples, thus the third and fourth considerations, are a readiness to take risks, and the existence of a firm and secure confidence in these long distance relationships by the two people.

This doesn't imply that each person needs to take up skydiving to prove their point, but rather, that each will trust that each one's own social life in their place of residence, will not be a risk in any way to the relationship. This type of assurance is so vital in long distance relationships, that if it isn't strong, you may need to make a intentional effort to work on it, both separately and together.

This leads to the fifth consideration, independence for both parties, with at the same time a healthy level of reliance upon each other. When these exist, there is a sense of equilibrium in the empowerment for each individual in such long distance relationships between people, and at the same time, each person can be self-directed but still have their emotional desires met by the other person.

In addition, with a suitable balance of independence and dependence, each individual is allowed, even encouraged, to develop and go through transformations as an individual, which everyone requires to feel whole and complete, regardless of any commitment to long distance relationships.

Consequently, it is wise not to suppose that your partner or yourself will forever stay precisely the same as when the long distance relationships first got underway. When these parts of the relationship are strong, the sixth important factor tends to be naturally present, mutual respect in long distance relationships if they are to have any chance.

Finally, none of these factors can give the relationship any certainty if the seventh aspect is not present, unambiguous expectations of the nature of the friendship on the part of each member of such long distance relationships.

It is essential that you work out your own individual expectations of the other member and of the relationship, and then talk about them with that person so that both of you know what you want and where differences may exist in each others expectations.

Lacking this, each partner is working on quite a different relationship to the other member, and troubles are likely.

Finally, in long distance relationships you have to make time together for quality time, and factor in those important alone time when together. Do things that bring you closer, rather than highlighting the distance between you.

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