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What do
women think about men?
I have been running an anonymous survey on this question for a few months now. Many women have responded. .I am listing out some of the questions and responses below. To the question, "What do you like about men?", the responses highlighted the following:- 1. Women like intelligence in a man: " their intellect / men who are intelligent " 2. Many women speak of a man's physicality. The word strength is frequently used which obviously comes from their physicality which is very much associated with "masculinity" but which is also associated with a sense of action and courage " I like physical strength and the feeling of security that comes from that. / I like that men are physically bigger and stronger / physical strength / physical attraction / their bodies... oh, those bodies / Smell, strength, confidence, size " 3. Strength of personality is also important in a man: "energy; courage / their self-confidence, their tendency to be protective / Their strength and ability to manage issues. They provide a sense of security ", 4. Women want men to be sensitive: " their ability to be gentle at the right time (with children, etc.), their self-confidence, their tendency to be protective" but not whimps: " they (can) act like babies a lot. We want them to be secure and our protectors and sometimes they tend to be very insecure and, well, wimps! / Dependency / 5. Women don't like men who are aggressive or domineering: " (some men) think that the man should be the dominant force in a relationship / aggression / Too much control. / Arrogance, indifference / lack of thought and caring." Such attitudes are seen as insensitive, thoughtless and not caring: " lack of thoughtfulness or kindness. / lack of compassion or tenderness / lack of thought and courtesy / lack of consideration / violence in their souls and who are unwilling to do what it takes to control it are the most dangerous of all This comment sums up well what many women want: " I like men who are intelligent, articulate, funny, warm, thoughtful, tolerant, respectful, sexy, tactile, passionate, honest and able to engage wholeheartedly in a relationship. " However women lament that such men are either hard to find or just simply don't exist: " Is there any chance to meet the perfect guy?" " 6. To the question 'What do you want from a relationship with a man? ' women frequently put respect, honesty, good communication and friendship at the top of their list as well as sex: I want my man to be totally truthful, loyal and sincere / Friendship, honesty, freedom, sex . / I want understanding, feelings shared, friendship, respect and trust / Communication, intimacy, humor, compassion, honesty / respect, affection, companionship, trust / committment, laughter, honesty, acceptance, humor, honor / attention, affection, and respect / Good sex, good conversation, a comfortable feeling, reciprocal feelings. / I want frienship, respect, honesty and shared interests, sympathetic understanding and cuddles, kisses, touching and sex. / sharing of innermost feelings and emotions; trust;honesty; respect;generosity of spirit; respectful communication; friendship;sex / Security, honesty, patience, compassion, great sex :) / This comment sums up well what many women are saying: " If we are talking about romantic and sexual relationships, I want a relationship based on honesty and integrity, where there is a healthy sexual intimacy combined with a intellectual meeting of minds based on tolerance, respect and shared laughter " 7. To the question " What are the most difficult and disappointing aspects to such a relationship?" the responses frequently commented on lack of understanding and poor communication: " Understanding each other when we don't see things the same way / Lack of communication and not enough time to bond and learn about each other./ not being understood. / feeling that my partner doesn't care about what I have to say / The knowledge that one can never truly share everything but this is a condition of humanity in general " 8. Women also speak of needing space, not being smothered and the effort required to maintain a relationship: " not being smothered, not becoming dependent or having your partner become dependent. Feeling free to pursue other relationships (friendships) without feeling guilty about not including him / people being offended by the need to not always be together / my need to be alone sometimes and not be full on all the time. I m too busy to be in a full time relationship. / Hate being restricted or controlled. / No outside, social interaction on your own / Loss of identity (as in marriage), feelings of being trapped. / When someone tries to control your life / continual hardwork . / putting in 100% all the time - can be quite draining! Many women express how the questionnaire has been useful in helping them think through their relationships with men. Men and women have requested a survey which men can respond to which covers the same areas. Men can now fill in an anonymous survey called " What do men think about women? " at http://www.ozcountry.com/mensurvey.html The responses will be available on the Life Tips Centre The questionnaire What do women think about men? is proving very popular. Give your views anonymously HERE.
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